Christians and Technology: Four Questions for Evaluating Apps, Platforms and Other New Technology

A few years ago, our young adult kids started using an app called Lapse. My wife considered downloading it to follow them and keep up with the photos they were sharing. At the time, I was teaching a Sunday school class at our church—Christians and Technology: How to Live a God-Focused Life in a Digitally Distracted World. That week, I had introduced several ideas from Andy Crouch’s book The Tech-Wise Family, which I often recommend.

Recognizing that Christians need a simple, repeatable framework for evaluating technology in light of how God designed us to live, I took four questions Crouch encourages his readers to ask and created a simple rubric to help us think intentionally about and evaluate new (and old) technology in light of God’s intended purposes for humans to live God-honoring, purpose-filled, and flourishing lives. I had distributed a printout for the class to take home and keep in a visible place that would give them a framework and filter for discerning whether or not to adopt a new technology. I’ve called it a Technology Discernment Framework and you can download a PDF at the bottom of this article.

The framework is a list of four simple questions to ask when evaluating apps, platforms and other new technology:

What are the things I’ll be able to do because of this technology? What value will it add to my life?
What will I no longer be required to do because of this technology? What will it save me from?

But . . .

What will this technology require me to no longer do or to do significantly less of?
What will this new technology require of me in terms of time, attention, relationships and money?

In our class, I invited the group to walk through an example that has inserted itself into our lives in the last ten years: streaming services. It was an instructive and helpful activity which I’ll try to reproduce here.

What are the things I’ll be able to do because of Netflix and other streaming services? What value will they add to my life?

Netflix and other streaming services have given us access to nearly every show or movie ever created. We are now able to watch anything we want at any time we want to watch. There are now no limits to our viewing opportunities and we no longer feel the fear of missing out.

What will I no longer be required to do because of Netflix and other streaming services? What will it save me from?

We will no longer need to sit through commercials or wait to watch the next episode until next week. It can save us from ever being that person who hasn’t seen the latest movie or show.

BUT . . .

What will Netflix and other streaming services require me to no longer do or to do significantly less of?

The main thing that these services require a person to no longer do is wait until next week or next month to watch a show or movie. One of the members of the class shared about a friend group who, prior to the advent of these services, gathered every Thursday—together and in community—to share a meal and then watch the much anticipated next episode of LOST. Once streaming services were introduced, they were no longer required to do this.

What will Netflix and other streaming services require of me in terms of time, attention, relationships and money?

First and foremost, these services are not free. According to the American Business Times, Americans spend an average of $52 a month ($624 a year) on streaming services. Perhaps the higher cost, however, is in the amount of time we spend on these services. In the U.S., where 83% of households have at least one streaming service subscription in 2025, we averaged 9.6 hours of viewing each week. That’s nearly 500 hours of watching streaming services each year—equivilent to twelve 40-hour work weeks. We can imagine that, had Augustine had Netflix, he may never have heard the words, “Take and Read.”

It was an instructive exercise and you could probably add a few things to our answers, but I hope it helps paint a picture of how to utilize this tool. My wife and I were confronted with the opportunity to download Lapse onto her phone that very week and so we walked ourselves through the four questions and decided that it was worth following along with their Lapse journeys. We didn’t just blindly download the app because everyone else was doing it. We took a few minutes to consider what it would do to us and how it would affect our lives and our ability to live God-honoring, purpose-filled, and flourishing lives. We said yes to Lapse. We chose not to use Instagram.

The point is not to say one app is better or worse than another but rather to provide a framework for intentionally and reflectively considering the ramifications of any new technology we might decide to adopt. The Technology Discernment Framework is about intentionality, something that is too often missing when considering new apps, platforms and other technologies.

Before you download your next app, take five minutes and ask these four questions—it may shape more of your life than you expect.

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Christians and Technology: Using My Phone Like It’s 2007

I was listening to Cal Newport’s Deep Work podcast¹ this morning and he walked through five ways to reclaim your smartphone and use it, once again, like it was originally introduced back in 2007. At the yearly Mac World event in January of 2007, Steve Jobs introduced the first iPhone that would do “three things: a widescreen iPod with touch controls, a revolutionary mobile phone and a breakthrough Internet communications device.”² It was an extraordinary moment but in that moment Jobs was not anticipating what Newport dubs the “attention platforms economy.” What was initially a tool with which we could create and do work quickly became a device which companies spent billions getting users to spend as much time as humanly possible on their screens with no thought or care for what that might do to them. We are the product of their greed dreams and we have given ourselves willingly to them.

Newport, for his part, has been pushing back for years. His book “Digital Minimalism” is a helpful guide to intelligent reflection on a relationship with our phones that can lead to a more sane and healthy use of them.³ In this particular episode, he offers five ideas for taking smartphone habits back to the healthier days of 2007 when they were still simply tools to be used by us rather than devices consuming us. All of his ideas are helpful and I’d encourage you to listen to the episode if reclaiming your phone as a tool rather than a time sucking device is something you’re wanting to explore.

The first idea shared is to transform the look of the phones digital interface so that it looks less like a slot machine and more like a monochromatic list of apps. He shares about several apps that can do this but the one I’ve been using for the past few years, Minimalist Phone, did not make his list and because I think it has been spectacular, I’d like to tell you about it.⁴ Like most minimalist phone apps, it transforms your phone into a rather boring list of apps by name only. You’ll have a home screen which can include up to six of your most used apps (#1 above) and a secondary screen with a list of everything else in alphabetical order. That alone has been helpful but there are a few other features I’ve utilized that have made it worth the $30.00 yearly fee.

First is the ability to hide apps (#2 above). They remain on your phone but are in a hidden folder which requires a few extra steps to access. This may be enough—out of sight, out of mind—for most of us. A second feature that I’ve found helpful is the ability to actually block an app (#3 above) for a range of time from 24 hours to 30 days (#4 above). Once an app is blocked, if you try to access it you’ll get a friendly reminder about why you can’t access it with the date it will be available again (#5 above). The only way to unblock an app is to wait for the time to pass or uninstall the Minimalist App.

The Apostle Paul reminds us to “pay careful attention, then, to how you walk—not as unwise people but as wise— making the most of the time, because the days are evil” (Eph. 5:15-16, CSB). The Minimalist app has been a helpful tool allowing me to do a better job of making the most of my time as I live with my smartphone. I hope it will help you as well.

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Brainwashing Ourselves Into Incivility . . . And A Way Out

A person’s worldview, the lens through which they make sense of the world, was historically shaped by one’s immediate environment; the family and community, religious institutions and local schools, neighbors and friends. Families, communities and local influences were in turn shaped by regional factors and those regions were situated in a larger nation or people group. Thought leaders of course produced articles and books filled with new ideas that found their way into the shaping of thought so that worldviews grew and changed bit by bit and occasionally, with the publication of a pamphlet like Thomas Paine’s Common Sense, quite quickly. Something like Common Sense could influence and shape worldviews with unprecedented and powerful potency. Even these more powerful transformative factors however were received and discerned within the conversations and dialogue of local communities.

This all began to change with the radio and then the television and more recently the Internet which each brought abundant news and ideas from all corners of the world devoid of any local context. Radio and television were limited and so most of the stations we watched or listened to needed to necessarily find a middle ground of discourse and thought. This began to change with cable television and the rise of ideologically driven talk radio but went into warp speed with the advent of the Internet. Now there is an ideological corner of the Internet for everyone and we are no longer being shaped by the conversations and debates we have with people we know and trust but rather from a talking head we’ll never meet. With cable news to feed us our ideologies and Netflix to keep us entertained, there’s no need to head downtown on Saturday night to shoot the breeze with our neighbors, some who might be Democrat and others Republican, some Presbyterian and others Baptist. When that was the case, we learned to be civil, to agree to disagree and to see the other as a neighbor and a part of the community to which we belonged.

When we allow ourselves to be formed in the ideological echo chambers of our own narrowing perspective, our neighbors become the enemy and civility turns to toxicity. In a bygone age, if our children talked about people they disagreed with disrespect and contempt, they would have been, to use a colloquial term, “taken out behind the woodshed.” When we complain about kids these days who don’t have any respect, we should look in the mirror – they sound like the talk show hosts we subject them to on the way to school and if we’re honest, they often sound a lot like us. And of course this is the problem. We’ve been brainwashed into thinking it’s all normal. Brainwashed too by locking ourselves inside echo chambers where we constrict all news to one or two tightly controlled sources. I use the term brainwashed because we all understand that is what happens in places like North Korea where the government tightly controls all media so her people only hear tightly scripted and controlled messages that promote exactly one ideology. And if we call that brainwashing then what we are doing to ourselves might aptly be called “self brainwashing.” And this seems a dangerous place to be headed as a society.

I wrote about this a bit in my article, The Danger of a Single Story . . . and a Billion Stories Too but today I want to offer a few thoughts on finding our way out of our echo chambers. This seems especially important as we head into a contentious and challenging election year and for full disclosure, I’m mostly writing to exhort and encourage those who would call Christ both Savior and Lord.

Sabbath

The Biblical word Sabbath means to cease and ceasing is an important place to begin. Sabbath of course refers to one twenty four hour period to rest and meditate on the things of the Lord, but choosing to limit intake of news in general and especially the type of hyper partisan news and opinion that so fills the Internet is an important choice we can make. The things we allow our minds to dwell upon are the things that will shape our worldview and thoughts about others. It’s important to take an honest assessment of the media sources we are listening to and watching. What are they forming in our hearts and minds? Is it fear? Stress? Contempt toward a certain group of people, people created in the image of God? If so, we probably need to turn it off.

Feast

As we decrease the amount of media we listen to, it creates an opportunity to increase the amount of edifying and helpful content that will lead us to be better listeners, more civil in our discourse and in general, just nicer people. One thing I did last year was read through the entire New Testament during Lent. I read about four chapters a day and completed everything except Revelation before Easter. Immersing myself in the Biblical story allowed the scriptures to be the dominant voice shaping how I think about the world.

Two books I want to read this year are Crucial Conversations and How to Know a Person, both of which I’ve heard a lot about when it comes to learning again to talk with people who disagree with us. Amusing Ourselves to Death is an old book but has much to say about the power of our entertainment and media saturated lives. Another thing I’d like to read this year is a good biography of Abraham Lincoln. No president lived through more contentious times than he did and he did so with civility and without resorting to the demonization of his enemies. If anyone knows of a good biography, let me know.

Most of the podcasts I listen to are sermons by Tim Keller or podcasts focused on the great commission and missions, but I do also listen to a few political podcasts. The two I’ve turned to time and again feature a panel composed of a conservative leaning journalist, a liberal leaning journalist and the host who moderates robust conversation. I’ve appreciated being able to hear them dialogue and discuss issues they often disagree quite strenuously about but do so with a sense of respect for one another. Left, Right And Center and Matter of Opinion are ones I listen to most often.

A helpful source of daily news has been The Pour Over, a short summary of each day’s news with Biblical reflection. It doesn’t overwhelm with opinion framed as news and it focuses simply on giving a summary of the day’s biggest news items. It can be listened to as a ten to fifteen minute podcast or as a daily email.

However you chose to respond, Justin Whitmel Early gives us a clear reminder of the reality we live in and a way forward when he says, “We live in a world of competing types of formation, streaming like busted faucets everywhere we look. We are guaranteed to be formed in consumption unless we ruthlessly pursue curation.” Curation – the process of selecting and organizing the content and information we read, listen to and watch is an important way forward. We have to be intentional in curating what we read, listen to and watch or we will be unintentionally formed, and we probably won’t be formed in the fruits of the spirit. What we feast on is what will form us.

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The Danger of a Single Story . . . and a Billion Stories Too

In October of 2006, Chimamanda Adichie gave what has become one of the most watched TED talks of our time. If you’ve not listened to her talk, it’s worth taking 20 minutes to listen now. In her talk, Adichie recounts her journey to America and her first encounters with people who had a single story of Africa: poor, uneducated and war torn. Having been raised in an upper middle class home, where English is an official language, none of these images were true for her or her friends. Her talk highlights the danger of allowing ourselves to be drawn into understandings of our world through a single story.

When American’s watch the nightly news and assume all Muslims are terrorists and when Muslims in the Middle East watch a steady diet of Hollywood films and assume all Americans are immoral adulterers they are both subject to the snare of the single story. While most stereotypes carry in them fragments of the truth, they are almost always formed in the cauldron of a single story; one person’s experience or opinion, one event broadcast in the nightly news, one book published by one author. The danger of a single story is one that we must all be aware of and watchful for if we are to be thoughtful, grace filled citizens of our world. We must be wary of the temptation to sequester ourselves in a few ideologically driven news outlets. We must watch that we do not simply allow ourselves to hear the things that our ears want to hear. We must read widely and pursue different perspectives if only to challenge ourselves to be critical thinkers. C.S. Lewis once famously advised readers to “Read everything. Read receptively. Repeat.”

While the danger of a single story is real, Adichie’s TED talk in October of 2006 preceded the release of the first iPhone a few months later in early 2007. What she did not know then was that the single story would soon be extinct, reserved only for those luddites who shunned smartphones or those ideologues who sequester themselves so deeply into their own little corner of the Internet that they can never hear another opinion. For the rest of us it is a brave new world of information overload; wall to wall, 24/7 access to every bit and bite of information ever produced. We are connected to anyone in the world, anytime we like. Today, a twelve year old with a smart phone in America can easily have more in common with a twelve year old in China than with their own grandparents. The danger is no longer that of a single story but rather, the overload of a billion stories. Like most new technologies, it is a double edged sword with potential for both tremendous good and despicable evil.

When I was a young child there were four TV stations, 15 -20 radio stations; a newspaper or two; we had a public library with a limited number of books. I had a home set of encyclopedias. I had my parents, my friends, my teachers and my pastor and youth pastor. Those were my influences that shaped me and they were essentially the same influences for everyone else in town. These were my ways and means of learning. I was able to be influenced by what was available to me. My parents and youth pastor were at the top of that list.

Today we have access to every movie ever made, there are tens of thousands of TV programs; there are blogs, podcasts, Youtube, Facebook, Twitter, thousands of news channels all buried neck deep in their own particular ideology; There are archives of sermons – tens of thousands of sermons; Today, the ways and means of learning have changed dramatically. Today, I am able to be influenced by whatever I want to be influenced by and I’m too often influenced by things that I don’t want to be influenced by. And therein lies the danger. We are all susceptible to being dragged down the rabbit hole of information overload. We all struggle increasingly to know what is true or not true. It’s enough to make one’s head spin and is all a bit unsettling. Where are we headed?

I am no luddite. I don’t in any way think the future is all doom and gloom (even with A.I.). But this is the time to be reflective. To think hard about the challenges that this digital, information age poses for ourselves and especially for our kids. We cannot simply unthinkingly accept these changes without thinking deeply about what the consequences of the dominance of technology might be. We must understand that our children are being shaped by their phones, are being discipled into the people they will become by the billions of messages that swallow them up everytime they look to their screen. We need to read the writers who are thinking deeply about these things. We need to have long, vigorous discussions with our peers about how we will raise our kids in this new environment. We need to learn that, as Dallas Willard points out, “The ultimate freedom we have as human beings is the power to select what we will allow or require our minds to dwell upon.”

Helpful Books:

Amusing Ourselves to Death by Neil Postman
The Tech Wise Family by Andy Crouch
The Life We’re Looking For by Andy Crouch
The Common Rule by Justin Whitmel Early

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Are We Amusing Ourselves to Death?

A number of years ago I was riding around the country roads of rural South Dakota near my in-laws’ farm on a four wheeler with my two young kids. We were exploring the countryside, stopping to throw rocks off of low bridges into muddy brown creeks, tracing the arc of a soaring hawk and occasionally, pulling into abandoned farm yards to poke around. There are always surprises to find, history to discover and a story to be told in a leaning barn or crumbling house. Up one such driveway we found an abandoned home that was still standing, albeit open to the elements from every broken window and dangling door. Like so many of its kind, after the residents moved out, the house became a sort of storage shed, a place to put the things someone didn’t really want around but couldn’t bring themself to throw away. And like so many makeshift storage units, the contents were soon forgotten, overrun by rats and raccoons and the decay of time.

As we climbed the broken down steps onto the front porch and gazed through the doorway with its screen door clinging crookedly by a single remaining hinge, we wondered about the family that had lived here. How long had they been gone? Why did they leave? And who dumped the enormous pile of clothes and pots and pans and other household items in the middle of the floor of the kitchen. It looked like a bomb had gone off on moving day. We stepped inside tentatively, aware that at any moment we might disturb a sleeping raccoon or some other animal that we might not really want to meet. The place was a moldy mess and yet the story of the family that had once lived there still hung in bits and pieces around us. A calendar on the wall, brittle with age, carried in its days the happenings of their weeks. A shelf with a few books destroyed by the rain that poured through a hole in the roof gave hints of their interests – gardening, faith, western novels. The colors of the carpet and curtains – had we been from an older generation – would have inevitably told of the decade they were installed.

It was mostly the tale of the decay and the kids were keen to leave before we stumbled onto something that might bite us. One last look around though revealed something worth exploring several feet from the open doorway. On top of an old heater unit in the living room sat a small, white diary. The cover was embossed with the year, 1969, and inside were page after page of the weekly doings of this family, recorded religiously in the small space for each day of the week. Sundays were nearly always spent at church in the “forenoon”, winter days were regularly accompanied by a note about the temperature – February 3rd hit a low of 12 below and was cloudy – and there were matter of fact notes about the farm chores that were completed on the particular day – January 28th – “Butchered drake (duck)”.

It all seemed rather normal except for one thing: every week this family would either visit or receive visits from neighbors. Sometimes two and three times a week – almost always in the evenings – there were social visits being made. Community was an ever present part of this family’s life. To my modern experience this seemed odd. Not odd in the crazy uncle sort of way but rather, odd in that we just don’t live like that anymore. We text our friends a few times a week at best but we don’t spend time together, not like they did.

Something has changed. Something drastic really. I can find pictures and stories in the archives of any small town newspaper of Saturday nights where hundreds of neighbors showed up on Main street to visit and dance and share life together. Boys gathered over bottles of Coca Cola to talk about the Yankees and school and girls. Ladies shared recipes and stories and prayers for their children. Men complained about the weather, argued about politics and discussed last week’s sermon. We talk of our small towns as “communities” because they truly used to be communities, places where people regularly “communed”. We ought perhaps to find a new word to use to describe our communities.

So what happened? What changed that the average evening for the average American now looks like a face in front of a screen rather than a face to face? Social anthropologists could probably explain what happened with studies and stats but I think the main thing that happened was the screen itself. It started perhaps with the television but has evolved so that our innate narcissistic tendencies are now fed wall to wall entertainment. Who needs community when there is Netflix?

A few things should be noted in this. First, we accepted this reality without a moment’s hesitation or reflection on what it might actually do to us. We were like the proverbial frog in the pot of water set to boil. We swallowed the television whole hog and then the Internet in our homes and then in our pockets and on our wrists. We occasionally lament the content – violence in the video games and porn on the smartphone in the average teen’s pocket – but we do very little about it. Second, the content is not nearly as destructive as the medium itself. Neil Postman, in his book Amusing Ourselves to Death, warned us before the Internet had even hit the screen.

No one listened.

Every medium used to communicate information, every system used to accomplish a desired goal has both intended and unintended consequences. They create behaviors. They shape our lives in ways we rarely expect. By the time we recognize the problems, it’s often too late.

And so television brought entertainment into our living rooms. It brought the news of the world into our homes. We could know about almost any topic with television and even more with the advent of the cable networks and virtually everything with Google. But while we are solving problems in our world faster than ever (a positive outcome) we are also creating problems at an alarming rate and we are increasingly, all alone. We have traded the birthright of community for a bowl of entertainment. We get to see every move (or Tweet) our politicians make and yet it’s all sound bites and entertainment. Our compassion for the downtrodden refugees of war is replaced with outrage over a politician’s missteps which is forgotten with a football player’s improprieties. And this all happens in the course of any given day. The next day we start all over.

Television and now the Internet has changed the way we interact with our world. We can argue over the scale of the benefits and problems that have come with that, but we must all agree that it has changed our society. The way we communicate, the way we interact, the way we learn and grow and disagree have all been changed. The medium, not the content, is responsible for that change.

The system is creating us anew.

I write all of this, not to merely warn against the unintended consequences of television and the Internet. You can read Postman for that and I’d encourage you to do so soon. I certainly need to reread it for I too often find myself endlessly scrolling Facebook rather than gathering with friends and family.

I also ask these questions because if it is true that the mediums of communication and the systems of life we have adapted shape the ways in which we interact, learn, and live, then we would do well to pause and reflect on all the ways this plays into the forming of our lives in other areas.

What about the systems we’ve adopted for education at schools, and religious formation at churches has created unintended consequences? Why do we produce so few lifelong learners through our educational systems? Why do so many churches create consumer driven Christians? What about the mediums and systems we’ve adapted for school and church lead to these outcomes?

These are questions that I hope our next generations will do better at reflecting on than my generation has?

Our future probably depends on it.

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Thoughts for the Proper Use of Technology

Last week I dove into the topic of technology with my thoughts on cell phone use. Today, in reflection of a short article I read at The Catholic Land Movement blog, I’d like to pass on some ideas I found there for discussion.

In his article, Principles for the Proper Use of Technology, Kevin Ford offers three principles to help guide our thinking about how and when we should use technology.

Like Kevin, I have a healthy fear that we are swallowing every new thing with nary a thought to the ramifications on individual, family or community life.

This bothers me and like Kevin, I’d like to explore a bit, ask some questions and in the end, be unafraid to make significant changes if that is what is called for.

Here are Kevin’s three essential elements for the proper use of technology.

1. Technology should benefit the family and the community.

2. If a lesser technology can be used without great detriment of time, labor, or money then it should be used.

3. Technology must serve the common good.

As I reflect on my thoughts about buying a cell phone in light of these three principles, I begin to come to the conclusion – for this time at least – that we may not need to spend $150+ every month to own cell phones.

Principle two leads me to this conclusion – a lesser technology that is far cheaper is available. We can install a land line and meet most all of our communication needs.

This of course could change as our life changes. But it seems at least a feasible conclusion for now.

How about you?

What do you think about his three principles? Are they helpful in guiding our use of technology?

Use Your Cell Phone Like It’s 1985

I am on the verge of buying my wife and I cell phones here in the states. We don’t own any as we have just returned from four and a half years overseas and so buying cell phones seems the thing to do. Everyone’s doing it right?

It may seem funny to some, but I am honestly considering not – as in not buying cell phones. Really.

Call me weird, but before deciding to move to Turkey five years ago we didn’t have cell phones, a TV, the Internet or a toaster – just kidding, at our house we love toast.

In Istanbul, a city of nearly 15 million, we bought a cell phone for each of us and were happy to have had them. They made life easier, kept us connected and provided a much needed sense of security.

But as of a week ago we are back in rural South Dakota. I am attempting in our return to live intentionally with my time and our money and the way I use technology – cell phones included. You see I want to use technology, to be its master and would like to keep it from becoming the other way around.

I have to be careful here of course. I am not saying cell phones are bad but I am trying to carefully consider how I use them. They are an amazing tool that can powerfully impact our personal experience in wonderful ways.

But, that doesn’t mean I need to swallow them whole hog. And that is why, if I do get a cell phone, I am going to endeavor to use it like it’s 1985.

Here are a few things that never happened in 1985:

Your best friend never stopped talking to you over dinner to talk with someone else a hundred miles away on their cell phone.
You were never distracted at movies, Church services or your kid’s school program by someone running out while holding their hand over their cell phone to muffle the Elton John ringtone.
You were never interrupted by telemarketers over dinner while eating out – that was reserved for eating with your family at home.
You never ignored your kids while you were “playing” with them in order to check the score, the stock market, play Angry Birds or to watch a Chris Farley video on Youtube (guilty as charged).
There were never any car crashes related to texting while driving. (No train crashes either)
You never dropped a call because you were driving through a tunnel. You sometimes dropped the phone, but it was always there, dangling by its cord, waiting to be picked up.
You never upgraded your phone on a yearly basis just because a newer model came out. In all of your life up until that point you may have upgraded twice – once when they introduced the touch pad to replace your old rotary phone and the next time when they came out with the cordless phone.
You never needed to have your wife call you so you could find your cell phone stuck in the couch cushions. The real phone was bolted to the wall in the kitchen. It never got lost.

Before the cell phone, it seems we lived pretty healthy, well-adjusted lives – most people did anyway. If someone called, and you were not at home, the phone just rang.

It just hung there on the wall and rang.

After a few moments of unanswered ringing, the caller would think to herself, “Hmmm. No one seems to be home. I guess I’ll try back later.” And life went on. Few people died because of unanswered phones.

But today, people having a heart to heart conversation with a friend, a spouse or their kids seem to have no problem dropping them to answer their cell phones (guilty as charged again). This seems like a problem.

My son is eight years old. I’ve had to occasionally reprimand him when, upon the smallest distraction, he will wander away from an adult who is trying to talk with him. It’s rude to just turn and walk away from someone who is talking and yet, if I examine my own life and the lives of most adults in his life, isn’t he just mimicking what he observes in us?

The funny thing is that it wasn’t always this way. I found a 2002 USA Today article that had this to say:

Most cell phone culprits inherently are ill-mannered underachievers. Getting a phone call in a public place and carrying on a long, loud conversation gives these wannabes a feeling of importance.

Ouch. It was just twelve years ago and yet it is strange to think how far we’ve come (or gone).

And so, if I purchase a cell phone in the next few weeks, I’m going to try to use it like it is 1985.

I won’t nail it to the wall in our home. Nor will I leave it sitting on the counter in the kitchen. I will however work to not let it control me. If I am free to answer it when it rings, I’ll answer it.

If however, I am with another person, if I am working on a project, if I am playing with my kids or enjoying my morning quiet time – I’ll just have to let it ring.

Now I am no Luddite. I am not opposed to cell phones. They are powerful tools that can be tremendously helpful. I just want to use it on my own terms. I want to use it as a tool, not be at its every beck and call.

When I was living in Istanbul, I always had a rule. If I was talking with someone, I would never answer my cell phone unless it was Consuelo – my wife gets preferential treatment. Everyone else got ignored.

But not really ignored. You see that is the great thing about technology – I always knew whose call I had missed and was able – after finishing up my conversation – to call them back.

And no one ever got mad at me for that. On the contrary, everyone was completely understanding, even appreciative that I had called them back.

Cell phones are as much a part of our lives as the clothes we wear. There are many amazing opportunities that exist because of them and they are often a powerful force for good.

I guess I just want to slow down a little, to consider all the ramifications before I dive back in. And then I want to work to use them as best I can.

What are your thoughts about cell phone use?

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